My partner has a secret porn addiction – how am I meant to trust him?

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE discovered my partner has a secret porn addiction – and I think he’s been meeting women from sex sites.

He denied cheating when I confronted him but I don’t feel I can trust him any more.

I’m desperate to find someone who can restore it so I can see what he’s been up to

He apologised and begged for another chance – and I agreed. But I don’t feel I can move on from this.

I suspect he’s been living a double life for years and is only professing his love because he has been rumbled and doesn’t want the truth to come out.

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Now he’s deleted his online search history and I’m desperate to find someone who can restore it so I can see what he’s been up to.

We’re both 50 and have been together since college, so I’m gutted.

DEIDRE SAYS: Seeing every tiny detail of what he has been viewing will not make you feel better. The chances are it will only make you feel worse.

You already feel hurt and betrayed. Now you need to decide if you want to work on rebuilding the trust or end the relationship.

Some relationship counselling might be useful for you both.

My support packs on Internet Pornography Worry and Counselling will help.

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