My husband no longer wants sex with me so I’m thinking about cheating

DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband no longer wants sex with me.

I’ve got a high libido and am so frustrated I’m considering cheating.

He thinks I should be understanding because he’s stressed and tired

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He thinks that I’m oversexed and should be understanding because he’s stressed and tired.

It’s been six months since we’ve been intimate, with no sign of the drought ending.

I’m 36 and he’s 40. We have two children.

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We’re now at the point of talking about divorce but I don’t want to hurt our kids.

I feel so rejected and unhappy, and although I love him I refuse to settle for a sexless marriage.

DEIDRE SAYS: Something has shifted for your husband, and you both need to talk about what is going on for him.

Stress can affect libido but burying his head in the sand won’t help and it’s unfair on you.

But cheating will only destroy your relationship.

Please talk to him again and say you both need to get help together, not just for your sake but for your children too.

My support pack on Reviving A Man’s Sex Drive has information and sources of support.

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