My husband has banned me from my brother’s wedding while he goes alone – he says I have to stay at home with the kids

A WOMAN has revealed that her husband has prohibited her from going to her own brother’s wedding because he doesn’t want to hire a nanny.

And get this, he still plans to go to the celebrations on his own.

Getty – ContributorA husband banned his wife from going to her own brother’s wedding because she has to stay home with kids. He will still get to go.[/caption]

GettyThe brother and the husband have been best friends for years[/caption]

Taking to Reddit, a stay-at-home who wanted to remain anonymous vented about her situation: “I’m a stay-at-home mom and my husband works full time.

“We have three kids and one of them is two years old. My husband helps a lot with the kids.

“He’s a committed dad but is absolutely against babysitters due to an awful incident with a babysitter that was the reason his younger male cousin James got disabled years ago.

“I don’t go out much since I have to take the kids with me and not every place is suitable for kids.

“We received an invitation for my brother’s (who has been my husband’s friend since college) wedding which we later discovered was child free.

“My brother lives states away so the entire trip will take four days as well as my brother’s inlaws weekend dinner party (their tradition).

“I told my husband I want to go since it’s been a while since I been to a wedding and this one is special and suggested we get a trusted friend as a babysitter. He asked if I was serious to consider leaving our two-year-old with a babysitter and suggested that I do what I normally do and stay home with the kids while he goes to the wedding.

“I refused and said I have as much right to attend as him since we both were invited. He said it wasn’t his fault my brother wants a child-free wedding and I should do this for the kids and sacrifice for their sake. I still refused and said this was unfair and since he’s a parent too then he should also stay for the kids.

“He looked at me and said, ‘That’s my best friend’s wedding you’re asking me to skip for Christ’s sake, are you kidding me?’

“Then said I was being petty for suggesting this and that I was basically choosing to go and party over keeping our kids safe. He asked me to consider this a business trip what would I do? Go with him and leave the kids?…. I said I understand his paranoia of babysitters but really all my friends have sitters and at times they’re really needed.

“He said I ought to know better than what my friends tell me and this wasn’t even up for discussion and when I kept arguing he called me selfish and said he won’t let me ruin his relationship with his friend because I was being spiteful for not being able to attend and that my brother will understand my situation.

“He keeps asking who’s more important: a wedding party or my kids and said I was unreasonable for making my attendance the hill to die on.”

Following her rant, many took to the comment section to make sure she was aware of the red flags her husband was exhibiting.

One person wrote: “I have a hard time believing your husband is a good dad. Every single sentence from him smells like entitlement and selfishness.

“If you can’t go to your brother’s wedding, so can’t he.

“Why doesn’t he stay at home and you attend? Since this never came to his mind he thinks less of you and your needs. You are the servant for the children. Not his wife who is on the same level.

“This wedding shows you what kind of person your husband is and what he thinks of you.”

A second one shared: “He’s trapped her. She relies on him financially completely and has an obligation to the kids. She can’t walk away easily. He knows that and exploits it.”

And a third commented: “Sister outranks friend, even BFF. If someone has to stay, it’s going to be him. I can’t imagine he’s even suggesting otherwise.

“If brother will ‘understand’ about sister, he’ll ‘understand’ about friend as well.”

GettyThe mom stays at home taking care of their three kids while he works[/caption]