My ex had me arrested for trying to see my kids

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex had me arrested for trying to see my kids.

I’m 40, she’s 37, and we were together for 11 years.

I can’t eat or sleep – I’m worried I’ll never be in their lives again

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After we split up last year, she stopped me from seeing my three wonderful children, aged five, seven and nine.

Worse, she’s turned them against me, so they no longer want to see or talk to me.

When I bumped into them in the local shopping centre, they blanked me.

I went over to my eldest daughter, but she said: “Daddy, go away.” It broke my heart.

My ex says I can only see them if I give her huge sums of money. I already pay maintenance.

I missed them so much that I parked outside their school, hoping to see them and have a chat.

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My ex then had me arrested for harassment.

I can’t eat or sleep. I’m worried I’ll never be in their lives again.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your ex is acting selfishly and not thinking about your kids.

You have every right to see your children, but you need to tread carefully and go through official channels to secure contact with them.

Please contact Families Need Fathers (, 0300 0300 363) who will understand the issues here and can give you advice and support.

The Coram Children’s Legal Centre (, 01206 714 650) provides legal advice on matters relating to children.

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