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Sex with inconsiderate boyfriend is awful – he is like a jackhammer
DEAR DEIDRE: GETTING intimate with my boyfriend is like having sex with a jackhammer.
He is considerate in every way – except when it comes to the bedroom.
I don’t know how to tell him he is awful in bed
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He cooks delicious meals, respects my feelings and opinions and includes me in everything.
But when it comes to sex he is absolutely awful. I am 27 and he is 29.
We have been together for three months and our sex life is such a disappointment.
The worst part is he seems completely unaware.
I don’t think he has heard of foreplay. He has a little fiddle, then simply jams it in.
Then straight away he goes like the clappers and orgasms quickly.
Sometimes I take over and feel like I manage to fix the issue but he quickly takes control again.
How do I talk to him without completely destroying his confidence?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It can feel awkward talking about sex, especially when things aren’t going as you’d like but the only way to sort this out is by communicating.
This is a conversation to be had outside the bedroom and when you are both in a calm mood.
Simply explain you would like to slow down foreplay to ensure you are both ready so you can both savour the moment.
Maybe suggest a session where you are the boss, and can tell him what he can and can’t do, and when.
I’m sending you my support pack How To Thrill A Woman In Bed, which you can read together.
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