My ex would stay out all night drinking but he left me for being too ‘controlling’

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my boyfriend left me, he said I am controlling and jealous.

I don’t agree but I certainly was raging when he moved into a shared house with another woman and her kid after I told him to find somewhere else to live.

My 19-year-old son spends all day playing video games and now doesn’t want to go to university

I’m 26 and he’s 30. We were together for nearly a year and he was living with me and my parents.

But it wasn’t working out.

He’d go to the pub every Friday and Saturday night – I was happy staying in with Mum to watch the soaps – but when he came home at 1am crashing about, it would cause huge arguments.

He’s now moved in with this woman I know vaguely.

She’s 35 and all over his Instagram posts. But they’ve only known each for a week.

It’s causing me huge anxiety. I want him to come home and for us to be happy again but he says the more questions I ask, the more I’m pushing him away.

DEIDRE SAYS: He has thrown all his toys out of the pram because he could not have his own way but he is not being considerate to you and your family.

If you do want him back, talk about finding a compromise.

If you don’t mind him going to the pub, fine – but he should come home quietly, or earlier so he is not waking people up.

If he only went to the pub one night a week, it could go some way towards saving for a place of your own.

My support packs on Counselling and Jealousy will help.

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