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Psychologist explains the three stages of EVERY relationship – and the mistake everyone makes
RELATIONSHIPS can change over time, but sometimes people find themselves holding on to the memory of what it used to be like in the beginning.
Savannah Gamblin, a psychologist specialising in relationships and self-help, broke down the three stages that every relationship goes through.
@logicallyinlove/TiktokSavannah says every relationship goes through these three phases[/caption]
She explains that when she was younger, her mum told her that she needed to “stop holding onto these s*** men, because it was ‘so good in the beginning’ or ‘oh my god but I love him’.”
As a part of “The 9 Month Rule,” she claims that not everyone understands their relationship until they’re gone through these three stages.
She says: “One – honeymoon – we all know that one.
“Two – the unravelling stage – this is when the relationship goes down to see those bad habits your partner has and you start to see the flaws in the relationship.
@logicallyinlove/TiktokShe says that when people get to the third stage, people often revert back to the ‘Honeymoon’ phase to ignore the issues[/caption]
@logicallyinlove/TiktokSavannah goes onto explain that the “realisation stage” is where you keep having the same fights and the same problems arise[/caption]
“They’re there – look harder.
“Third – realisation stage – oh s*** this is what I’m dealing with and oftentimes during this realisation stage we go back to the ‘honeymoon phase’ and we’re like, ‘that’s what it’s like’.
“No, no, no – that’s an illusion.”
Savannah goes onto explain that the “realisation stage” is where you keep having the same fights and the same problems arise – and we have to learn to get out of it.
Her video has been viewed over a massive 7.3million times and racked up over 1.5million likes.
@logicallyinlove/TiktokThe ‘Realisation stage’ is when the work needs to happen[/caption]
The psychologist’s followers flooded into the comments, to share their thoughts.
One person wrote: “Crazy how it really only take(s) me like 2-3 months to realise this.”
Another said: “Realisation stage is where you decide what you will allow yourself to put in if the other person is actually worth it to you or not!!”
A third commented: “Absolutely correct. The realisation phase is when you genuinely have to make the decision if it’s the relationship you want! Communication during this phase WILL make or break your relationship.”
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