My sister thinks I’m nasty for cutting our alcoholic mother out of my life

DEAR DEIDRE: DESPITE my mum being a vile human being, I am the nasty one for cutting her out of my life.

She has had a drinking problem for as long as I can remember.

My sister and I both dropped contact with her when we left home

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Because she is always hammered, she can rely on the same excuse: “I can’t remember.”

Once I opened the front door to find her snogging a random man while my dad and sister slept upstairs.

And when I introduced them all to my first boyfriend, she told him: “Wait till you see her sister, she’s far nicer.”

My sister and I both dropped contact with her when we left home. But after finding out she had breast cancer, my sister got back in touch.

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She thinks it’s “disgusting” that I haven’t reached out to our mother since.

My sister and I are 34, and our mum is 55.

Am I in the wrong here?

DEIDRE SAYS: These are not the actions of a loving and supportive parent, so it’s no surprise you don’t want to repair that relationship.

But the question you have to ask yourself is if you will regret not reaching out when you are no longer able to.

Either way, it’s not healthy to hold onto this resentment.

It might help to speak to someone impartial, so I’m sending you my support pack on counselling.

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