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My boyfriend likes to masturbate alone in the shower but won’t have sex with me
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend is never in the mood for sex but masturbates most days.
I’m female, we’re both 29 and have been dating for just over a year.
He’s too tired for sex but he masturbates – I’ve walked in on him doing so in the shower
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At the start, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. But I can count on one hand how many times we’ve had sex in the past three months.
He never initiates sex and rejects me every time I do. He always says he’s too tired.
But I know he masturbates. I’ve walked in on him doing so in the shower.
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Is he not attracted to me anymore?
The constant rejection is really starting to get to me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Various things can affect our sex drive – stress, self-esteem, medication. But as your boyfriend is masturbating regularly, it suggests something else might be going on.
Talk to him and ask him what has changed in the last few months – and if there is something he would like to change in your relationship.
Watching a lot of porn can blunt any drive with a real-life partner. Explain that the lack of sex is affecting your self-esteem.
My support pack How To Thrill A Man In Bed may help you.
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