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My sister’s baby name is ruining my relationship–she decided to name her after my late wife and my girlfriend is furious
A DISTRAUGHT man has taken to the internet to gauge whether or not he is treating his girlfriend unfairly.
He claimed that his girlfriend is furious his sister is naming her baby after his deceased wife and is basically making her pick between his family and her.
GettyA man is upset over possibly losing his girlfriend due to an argument about his late wife[/caption]
GettyHe said it all started when his sister wanted to honor his late wife with her baby’s name[/caption]
The man began his anonymous post to Reddit by telling the story of his past relationship.
He said he married his high school sweetheart and they were together for 16 years before she unfortunately died in a car accident.
They had two children together.
“I was devastated and only thanks to my amazing family was I able to pick up the pieces enough to be able to raise and be there for my kids,” he admitted.
He then explained that he has been dating his girlfriend for about eight months and has run into a major relationship-breaking issue with her.
He said that his sister is pregnant with her first child and wants to use his late wife’s name to honor her.
“My sister was very close with my wife, as she practically grew up with her around.
“She was equally as heartbroken and devastated as I was when my wife passed,” he recalled.
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When the poster learned his sister wanted to honor his deceased wife, he was elated – but the girlfriend was far from happy.
“My girlfriend blew up on my sister saying she thought it would be disrespectful to her, and that she felt like she would always be in my wife’s shadow with a baby that had her name around.
“My sister tried to say it would only be the middle name but my girlfriend carried on shouting at her and saying she was sick of competing with a dead woman and how she wished we would all get over it already,” the poster claimed.
He went on to explain that after the confrontation, he left his kids with his sister and went home with his girlfriend to discuss the matter privately.
“I then blew up on my girlfriend, first berating her for shouting at my pregnant sister and then asking why she would disrespect my late wife like that,” he claimed.
“She tried to turn it around on me and make me feel guilty for not defending her and told me that agreeing with what my sister asked made me a s**tty boyfriend and it showed I didn’t care about her at all.
“I told my girlfriend I had tried my best to not make her feel like she had been ‘competing’ with my late wife, as she had put it, but she had always known how important my wife was to my family.”
He also asked why she was no longer being understanding of his life situation.
The man added that his girlfriend admitted she thought he would eventually “forget” about his late wife and then left the house.
He claimed they haven’t spoken since and is now getting angry texts from his girlfriend’s family about the situation.
He concluded his post by asking the strangers of the internet whether or not he was in the wrong for supporting his sister’s name choice despite loving his girlfriend.
THE VERDICT
In response to the question, hundreds of fellow Redditors rallied around the man to support his feelings and even urged him to dump the woman.
“For your kids’ sake, I really do hope you dump this woman before she tries to permanently erase their mother and make them feel guilty for missing her or asking questions about her,” one person commented.
Another user with personal experienced added: “As someone who grew up with a stepmother who tried her very damn best to do this – do not continue a relationship with this woman.
“It will not stop, and it will get worse.”
“What happens if you get married?
“Does she force the kids to call her mom if they don’t want to?
“Does she erase your late wife and expect your kids to forget her too?
“No remembering, grieving, celebrating her birthday if they need to/want to?” a third concerned reader questioned.
“This is dangerous territory for your kids’ wellbeing.”
The poster has not updated readers about the situation.
Unfortunately, his family is not the first to be negatively affected by a baby’s name.
For instance, a person claimed they hated their child’s “inappropriate” baby name but was forced to accept it due to a pact they made with their partner.
Plus, a woman claimed her sister blocked her after she told her the name she wanted to give her newborn was awful.
GettyThe girlfriend claimed she thought her boyfriend would ‘forget’ about his deceased wife the longer they stayed together, but people don’t agree with that way of thinking[/caption]
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